The truth is that addictive and compulsive behaviors hurt others and ourselves in ways we could not see when we first entered recovery.
It may be tempting to dismiss love addiction, anorexia, or obsession as “less risky” behaviors because they may not directly hurt others. How it expresses itself (what we call Bottom Lines) varies widely from person to person.
The nature of our addiction lies in isolation, disconnection, and shame. At the core of our experience, whatever form our addiction takes, we have found it to be cunning, baffling, and powerful - no matter one’s gender or how our addiction is expressed. In reality, sex addiction, love addiction, sexual/emotional anorexia, or often a combination of these can be uncovered during our exploration of our destructive behaviors. It can be thought that sex addiction mainly afflicts men and love addition mainly affects women, but we have not found this to be true for us. It is very common in our fellowship for newcomers to see love addiction as “less serious,” or perhaps something that only women struggle with. We encourage you to start here for a self-analysis of your current situation.Ī Note on Sex Addiction vs Love Addiction as it Relates to Gender We find a common denominator in our obsessive, compulsive patterns which renders any personal differences of sexual orientation or gender identity irrelevant. and seek a relationship with a higher power to counter the destructive consequences of one or more addictive behaviors related to sex addiction, love addiction, dependency on romantic attachments, emotional dependency, and sexual, social and emotional anorexia. In addition, members reach out to others in the fellowship, practice the Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions of S.L.A.A. One of the resources we draw on is our willingness to stop acting out in our own personal bottom line addictive behavior on a daily basis. Please check the meeting schedule for times and locations.įor additional information about Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, please visit their website at and Love Addicts Anonymous (S.L.A.A.) is a Twelve Step and Twelve Tradition oriented recovery fellowship based on the model pioneered by Alcoholics Anonymous.
We S.L.A.A.’s have a special understanding of each other and the disease, and we have learned how to recover through The Twelve Steps of S.L.A.A. We offer help to anyone who has a sex addiction or love addiction or both and wants to do something about it. Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, or S.L.A.A., is a Twelve Step, Twelve Tradition oriented Fellowship of men and women who help each other to stay sober. Only you can determine if you are a sex and love addict. However, if we follow a simple program which has proven successful for scores of other men and women with the same illness, we can recover. Sex addiction and love addiction, if left unchecked, always gets worse. An obsessive compulsive pattern, either sexual or emotional, or both, exists in which relationships or sexual activities have become increasingly destructive to career, family and sense of self-respect. It may take several forms-including, but not limited to a compulsive need for sex, extreme dependency on one or many people, or a chronic preoccupation with romance, intrigue, or fantasy. believe that sex and love addiction is a progressive illness which cannot be cured but which, like many illnesses, can be arrested.